Goodbye, Wedding Dress

I bought my wedding dress on my first official wedding dress shopping trip. Everyone was in love with it. I felt like a princess.

If only all the photos could have looked as good as this one...

If only all the photos could have looked as good as this one…

Gorgeous, impractical, soft and embellished, the dress was irresistible.

Unfortunately, I can barely look at any of my wedding pictures without cringing a little.

You see, the dress was beautiful, with a heart shaped neckline. On me, that neckline was a little lopsided. I was assured that it would be easy peasy to fix and it…wasn’t. Balking at the $500 price tag, I opted for the simpler fix of making the dress into a halter top.

It didn’t fix it.

The halter was put on lopsided, which just accentuated the problem. I was assured by my entourage that it looked fine, no one would notice, and maybe that was true at first. But after the dress had settled a bit…it’s all I can see in nearly every single picture.

It is a beautiful dress. I thought I would treasure it and want to keep it forever.

But I don’t. I don’t want to put it on to remind myself of the day. I don’t want to keep it just in case my future daughter wants it. I want to remember how wonderful that day was, and hopefully, with time, I will forget that little wardrobe malfunction…or at least find it humorous.

So today, my dress will be posted to The Brides’ Project — a fantastic charity that sells dresses at reduced cost, and all proceeds go to cancer-related charities, which is a cause that is dear to my heart.

It’s the best use for it I can imagine.

I just hope the next person who falls in love with it isn’t “lopsided” like me.

What did you do with your wedding dress?


The Perfect Dress…Sort Of

As mentioned in a previous post, I found *the* dress. Actually, I found it over a month ago, on my second foray into the wedding dress world (which is just how I like my shopping, nice and quick).

It was as if it was meant to be, the dress was in my size, the last one, one sale, and they were willing to discount it a bit further to make it fit within my budget. How couldn’t I say yes? If I didn’t get it that day, there was no guarantee it’d be there next time. My aunt and bridesmaids loved it. I felt like a princess. At the time, my only obstacle was myself–I had never intended to buy a dress that day. I just wasn’t ready. But my logical self prevailed, and I presented the required plastic.

At the time, the sales lady had said that all it needed was a bit of hemming, and just one minor tuck. You see, the sweetheart neckline was lopsided–more like a real heart than it should be. But if you pulled it in at the side, it looked fine.

Then I saw a couple of different tailors. One thing they both agreed on is that tucking it in at the side wouldn’t fix the dress. The first tailor, based on pictures I had brought in, said that the adjustments could cost between $150 to $250, possibly more, because they might need to redo the detailing to balance everything out. The second, actually looking at me in the dress, said she couldn’t see any way to make it work without giving it a halter strap. So much for a small tuck.

It came down to whether the extra money or the sweetheart neckline was more important. Which, for me, wasn’t a hard decision to make. The halter will be out of tulle, so it will be fairly sheer and non-intrusive. I’m sure it will still be beautiful.

But it will not be the “perfect” dress I bought.

Maybe it will be better?